who says that being in a relationship means you should ignore your friends?
this is something that pisses me off entirely. any time i’ve ever been in a relationship, i never became shady towards my friends. i still included them and hung out with them, maybe not quite as much, but still pretty much on the regular. why do people do this? in my experience, when you smother yourself in a relationship right away because you have these butterflies, if you will… it will probably bite you in the ass. unless you are married and/or living with each other, there should be some sort of space. it’s healthy. i’ve done that whole “i like this person so much, i need to spend every waking moment with them” thing. believe me, 9 times out of 10, you end up getting sick of that person a few months down the line. but, don’t place your friends on the back burner. especially when they’ve been there for you and done so much for you. they may not be there when you want them back. now, luckily i’m not one of those people. if you’re my real friend, i’ll always forgive you and give you another chance. but i definitely won’t think of you as i did before. i will know that you would drop me/your friends if you felt like it, so i will always keep that in the back of my mind.
this is currently the situation going on with a friend of mine. someone i consider(ed) very close. this person is in a new relationship and has barely talked to any of his/her friends. and for what? a boyfriend/girlfriend? i wasn’t aware that you couldn’t have both. and i totally get wanting to spend a lot of time with this person, but you can’t answer a text or hang out without this significant other? that doesn’t sit well with me, at all.
i guess people are just different, but i’d never do something like that.@1 year ago with 1 note
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